Depending on the impressions, beliefs, level of trauma, type of trauma and how many strategies we’ve used to avoid, repress and disconnect from the pain around the emotional wounds will determine the lengths we need to go to to reparent ourselves.
In my experience, there is no one size fits all, healing is so unique but there are principles that apply to everyone and that will support the navigation of your inner world and transform the pain into love!
Reparenting the self is a courageous journey and it requires so much patience and love that really can only come from you and Divinity.
When we don't give ourselves space and time to heal these polarities and deep emotional wounds, it will show up strongly in our lives as:
❥ Continually attracting the 'wrong' partner or friendships (people that continually trigger us and sting the false ego)
❥ Don't feel like you can trust yourself
❥ It's a struggle to take care of ourselves in any of the seven areas of life, particularly financially
❥ Struggle to be consistent in your life
❥ Pervasive thoughts, berating, sabotaging (guilting and shaming yourself)❥ Never-ending grief, longing and yearning (limerence)
The problem is, it's so deeply ingrained that we begin to believe it's just part of our personality and therefore we can't do anything about it! But I promise you it's possible!
Here are the 5 Principles to Heal - 1. Sit with the concept that we’re all spirit souls, even our parents. However inadequate, narcissistic, incapable and absent their parenting, they have a soul. Throughout our human experience we are fallible, make mistakes and ultimately we’re just playing out roles to one another throughout our time here. Sitting with this helps to create detachment, without detachment, we cannot heal.
2. When you feel triggered or overwhelmed by their incapabilities (we all have them) allow yourself to grieve the needs that were never met. The love you never received. 3. Try to understand exactly what needs your lower self (inner child) is still yearning and crying out for and look at ways you can meet these yourself. When the emotion arises learn to observe it (they’re just sensations in the body) 4. Be kind to yourself! How our caregivers treated us later becomes how we treat ourselves, our internal dialogue and this is often quite harsh, mean and unrealistic! Often for Empaths, this includes immense amounts of guilt and shame. Instead of treating others this way as it was done to us (harsh judgements, put-downs and criticism) we just internalize it. Take some time to sit with how your parents treated you and your emotions when you were in pain.And how do you still treat yourself this way? And lastly, find the right people to share your healing journey with! If you'd like more support on your healing journey, join my complimentary course below on how to protect your energy without giving your power away.
Learning how to protect your energy without giving your power away!
In loving service,
Lalita | Spiritual Growth Coach
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